A camp day means kid-free time.
At least, that’s the flip response to sending my kids off to spend part of the day elsewhere.
And maybe it’s said with a little bit of relief.
But not because I hate my kids and don’t want to spend time with them. I’m not actually counting down until they go back to school in the fall(not yet, anyway).
I will admit that it IS easier to get my work done when they are at camp. Being a work-at-home mom is always a hard balance and even harder during the summer. I manage when they are home, but yeah, it’s easier when they are elsewhere.
It might be nice to say well, gee, they’re only kids for such a short time, I’m going to spend every precious second with them. But some of us can’t put jobs on hold for the summer.
Honestly, even if work weren’t an issue…
My kids go to camp because they like it.
They’ve gone to basketball camp and Vacation Bible School so far this summer. They have gymnastics camp coming up next week. And more to come.
They get to try new activities or get practice with things they want to get better at(or they learn about Jesus- my boys need Jesus).
My boys get to spend time with friends- meeting new ones or seeing ones from school- AND that means spending time with someone other than each other. Too much togetherness means they start grating on each other’s nerves. Camp helps with that.
They want to go to camp. It’s fun for them and I’m so proud of how they are growing up and becoming more independent, wanting to try things without me holding their hands.
It’s not every single week that they go to camp- I spaced out their camps so there’s a balance between them being home and being gone. That’s both so they have some downtime and because sending three kids to camp every single week gets pricey.
We go to the pool and the park, we’ll eventually get to the beach if it ever stops raining here, we have movie nights, do crafts and science experiments, play games, read, visit friends and family, bake, and more.
We do tons of things together.
This summer is flying by. So I totally understand when people talk about embracing the summer with their kids and making sure to really enjoy it since time passes so quickly and our kids get to be grown faster than we’re ready for. I’ve read some absolutely lovely posts about just that over the past few weeks. And I read them nodding my head in agreement.
But some people take a lovely sentiment and decide to get up on the soapbox of the superior parent:
Which made me lose my live-and-let-live, everyone-parents-their-own-way-no-big-deal-to-me attitude and want to go on a facebook rant. I didn’t because it was only in my feed since a friend had commented on this status- not because I was friends with the person who did- from what I can tell, I’m so far removed from this person that she’s a friend of a friend of a friend of a friend of mine(or something like that).
And while I don’t usually condone facebook rants or calling out someone else’s parenting decisions… when someone says “For all the parents who…” it means they aren’t just saying what they do and what works for them, they think that they are doing it right and the rest of us are doing it wrong.
So I’m taking a moment to not be the bigger person and to get up on a soapbox of my own. Not all of us have the luxury of being able to plan our lives so that we can actually enjoy each precious summer of childhood together. Or actually, maybe some of us don’t think we have to be with our kids every single second in order to enjoy the summer together. Kids can actually have fun without us… and we don’t have to feel guilty about that.
But, whether you are with your child every single day this summer or you send them to camp some of the time or the majority of the time- you can still enjoy the summer as a family and create wonderful memories for your kids.
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