Pour Your Heart Out: My Kind of Romance

The most romantic day of the year is this Thursday, right?

That’s what we’re supposed to believe. A day to show how much you love someone.

Hubs and I? We roll our eyes at Valentine’s Day.

Being dorky together? Totally romantic.

Being dorky together? Totally romantic.

It’s not that we don’t believe in romance, because we do. But we’ve never been big on cards. And he knows I’m not really a fan of flowers(except maybe out of the blue, for no reason wildflowers) and that the thought of how much roses cost on Valentine’s Day makes me cringe and think well, damn, if you were going to spend a crazy amount of money on something, please buy me another pair of my favorite yoga pants. Going out to eat is something we like to do, but the crowds on Valentine’s Day aren’t something we like to deal with.

Plus, our wedding anniversary is less than a month away- and we’d rather do something big for that day instead.

So, we pretty much ignore Valentine’s Day.

But, I still appreciate the romantic gestures he makes during the year.

  • Like knowing when I’ve hit my ohmygosh, I need alone time threshold and telling me to go somewhere alone while he watches the boys.
  • Washing the dishes.
  • Meeting me for lunch while the boys are at school.
  • Suggesting we go see a chick flick.
  • Letting me sleep in.
  • Reading my mind and bringing home Chinese when I’m randomly craving it.
  • Sending me a link to something he knows I’ll love.
  • Saying that a gift card to the spa is a cop out gift and not getting me one since I’d just use it to get my hair done- something I’d do anyway.
  • Knowing when a book by a favorite author of mine is out.
  • Telling me he loves me every day.

It might not be the stuff of romance novels or movies or resemble anything pictured in a Valentine’s Day commericial, but it all shows that he really knows me.

And that is my kind of romance.

What is something romantic your spouse does for you?

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  1. Sounds like romance to me!
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  2. You and I are so alike. My definition of romance is the same thing–the little things that really go a long way–not flowers (though sometimes they are nice.) I got a new pair of the slip on kind of sneakers for Valentine’s Day. DH saw that I was having a hard time bending over to lace shoes during my last pregnancy and so for this pregnancy he wanted something to make it easier for me. It’s things like that that I really appreciate. That and ice cream.
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  3. I’m with you, Shell! I don’t need my husband to make a big splash on Valentine’s Day on my account. But I do encourage him to make it a big deal for our daughters. We want them to grow up knowing their Daddy thinks they are fabulous – so they don’t go looking for that kind of attention in the wrong places later on.
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  4. Absolutely love your version of romance. xo
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  5. We don’t really celebrate Valentine’s Day either. Our birthdays actually surround V-Day (the 9th and the 19th) so that kind of cancels it out.

    I like when my husband rubs my feet and how caring he is when I am not feeling well (I am not nearly as sympathetic and considerate when he is not feeling well!). It sounds like your hubby can almost read your mind!
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  6. All the ways in which your husband shows you love are wonderful. Washing the dishes is an especially big one for me–so I’m with you on that one. So is mopping the floor and cleaning the toilet and doing the laundry and… well, any household chore that I don’t have to do just shouts “I love you” to me. I used to hate Valentine’s Day because of how commercial a holiday it is. But I do like celebrating it now with homemade gifts and cards.
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  7. It’s the small, thoughtful things that really count.
    The flowers and dinner are for the poor young schmucks trying to impress their new girlfriends. :)
    Happy non-Valentine’s Day! 
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  8. Aww I loved this.  It sounds just like our house…..although I would NOT use the spa certificate to get my hair done…I would definitely get a massage :)
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  9. I love this post. It resonated to me a lot. I don’t know really if it’s our maturity level or experience, but as we grow we learn the value of true and meaningful things. Great example is your husband looking out for you and allowing you your ‘me time’.

    No roses, no cards in this household either.
    Hugs bella.
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  10. It really doesn’t matter to me what he does on Valentine’s day, but I will admit flowers make my day and I’ve even bought them for myself before just because I think they cheer up the whole house! But other than buying him his favorite candy, if he gets anything else from me its homemade.
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  11. We approach Valentine’s Day in much the same way. We try to show our feelings all year – rather than save it up for one day. My husband has a way of knowing what I need and want, too. It’s pretty convenient sometimes! ‘Take out? How did you know?’ :)
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  12. So with you on this! Recently I’ve thought maybe it was because I didn’t have anyone to celebrate with, but this year I do and I still feel the same way!
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  13. He sounds wonderful! Those are the things that really matter. Flowers die, but those glasses? They’ll last forever! ;) I love that he meets you for lunch while the kids are at school. So sweet. 
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  14. Those little things go so far. I much prefer the smaller gestures that remind me how well he knows and loves me than the big stuff.
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  15. Happy (early) Valentines Day my friend.

    I don’t like Valentines Day, you should love one another every single day. One of my favorite lines from a movie “The Mirror has Two Faces” and there is talk of marriage and why do it etc..and Barbara Streisand says “I think it would be nice to have someone KNOW me, what I’m afraid of, what I like to do, what kind of toothpaste I use” and since I was single when I fell in love with that movie, I sought my mate as someone who KNEW me. (and liked me anyway)
    I agree with you, that it’s nicer to have a husband that knows me, who lets me sleep when I have a migraine, who lets me go into Payless and waits outside with NO JUDGEMENT, who takes the garbage out and the dog out…and tells me I’m pretty A LOT. (even if I’m not). I am glad that you two have that too, that your life is sweet because it’s not just once a year..but every single day.


  16. That is the kind of romance we do at my house, too. 
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  17. I am with you – it’s the little things. But most of all it’s what makes YOU happy!
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  18. hahah. totally with you! Roses cost wha? My practical side is in line with yours. Just gimme that money you would have spent and let me go to Target by myself. That would be way more awesome :) 
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  19. Have to agree that it’s those little things they do every day that matter most! Valentine’s Day has never been super big for us, either….
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  20. send those gift cards straight to me!!

    I remember loathing valentines day because I had no one to spend it with… now I forget that it’s coming.
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  21. Those are all signs of true love. 

    I love when my husband brings me coffee in the morning before I wake up on the weekends. 
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  22. Aww that’s sweet. That stuff is so much better than doing something JUST because it’s Valentine’s day. My boyfriend does a lot of those things too. Letting me sleep in is an amazing one – because it means he’s getting up with my daughter. I just need to train him to suggest we watch a chick flick. Just once. 
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  23. Right there with ya! We roll our eyes at it too. And this year, I think we are just going to the local burger place with “R”…and having dinner as a family. What could be better than a date with the two boys I love, right?
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  24. I told my husband to never buy me flowers on Valentine’s Day. Ridiculous that they cost twice as much just because it’s a certain day. Your idea of romance is the same as ours. But we do cards because I love that it forces us to take a minute to tell the other what we mean to each other & sometimes all the chaos with the kiddos makes that difficult.
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  25. I personally think that being with a man who really knows you is as romantic as it can get! 
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  26. I love this, Shell. Also, hey girl! I’ve missed you :) 

    I couldn’t agree more. Valentine’s Day comes much more than just once per year and couples who understand that are usually the ones who stand the test of time (IMO anyway). 

    Like you, I’m practical and wouldn’t want anyone spending an arm and a leg to get me flowers one day a year. Little meaningful surprises count for so much more.

    That is the cutest photo of you both :) 
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  27. Feeling sick right now, my idea of romance would be him taking care of the kids so I could get better. He would earn a pass for about 10 more Valentine’s if he would get up with the kids tomorrow and get them off to school so I could sleep.
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  28. My sweetie calls Valentines’ Day Single Awareness Day. It is hard for everyone out there without someone. My favorite thing he does for me is get up early and run the carpool so I can sleep in. And he is a fantastic cook!
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  29. What wonderful way to say I love you! My guy leaves notes every now and then for me to find.
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  30. I completely agree with you on V-day. It’s pointless to show your love on just one specific day and I love it when  my husband and I show each other love every day. Don’t waste a ton of money on over-priced flowers that will die in a few days, I’m not a flower girl too, or go to a restaurant where they charge you and arm & a leg for their V-day themed entrees, which are the same they serve any other day, but with decorative hearts or possibly some champagne. Tomorrow will be just another day for us! 
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  31. It is the small gestures that hold the relationship together. We still exchange cards for Valentine’s Day. I have a February birthday, so I am really all about the recognition and love on that day.
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  32. We are very similar. It’s the little things that get me :)
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  33. Love the photo! And you are spot on in your view of overpriced roses and crowded eateries. Mine shows his love by spending one of his days off running errands, grocery shopping, fixing doorknobs, cleaning house and being Mr. Mom.
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  34. Sounds perfect to me, too. I think Valentine’s Day puts so much pressure. I’ve absolutely found myself sad on that day for whatever reason – and it shouldn’t have been that way. I did it to myself with my hyped up expectations!
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  35. Your priorities are so right on.  We’re right there with you.
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  36. same here, Shell. why only show your love ONE day of the year when there are 364 others? so goofy. we get take n’ bake heart-shaped pizzas for the kids and have a movie night together or play games. I prefer flowers for an unexpected day, you know?

    thanks for hosting & letting me pour my heart out. going to read some of the other posts now!
    can’t wait to see you at Blissdom in Dallas!

  37. Valentine’s Day is a non-event in our house as well.. For many reasons. And I much agree with you – romance is in the little things – not the flowers – but in the things that showed he thought about me randomly during the day.

    :) ooh and our anniversary is only a few weeks away too! :)

  38. Your list is SO sweet! I was literally saying “aw” after each one! I, too, love it when my husband does the dishes. Nothing sexier than that! Bah Humbug, Valentine’s Day!
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  39. Your hubby is a keeper! And the picture of the two of you is priceless! I’ll take the romance of loving, everyday gestures over big V Day ones any day! 
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  40. I agree that the romance throughout the year is much more important.  I do love the tradition that we have of having a fancy family valentines dinner as the kids absolutely love it and it has made the day special; then Eric and I just go out to eat a different night that is less busy. 
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  41. I love this and couldn’t agree more!!
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