This is a house of all boys. They are noisy and dirty and love sports and Legos and all sorts of creepy crawly things.
We teach them to respect others and to take care of each other and in some cases how to suck it up and be a man- and other times how it’s okay to cry. That they can do anything they set their minds to, if they try hard enough.
I imagine if I had a girl, I would want her to learn a lot of the same things and make sure she knew she didn’t have to put up with crap from people- to be strong and have “girl power.”
But we’ve had a few run ins lately where “girl power” has gone too far.
Little girls with an air of entitlement- that they can do anything they want to boys like call them names and hit them. And that it’s okay because they are girls and they are just doing it to boys.
That they are just being strong and not taking anything from anyone, boys included.
One example: a 9 year-old girl who shoved my 4 year-old off a slide and then kicked him while he was laying on the ground. And who then told me that she’s allowed to hit boys but they can’t hit her. Because her mama said.
And while I can understand the idea of teaching a little girl that they should never let boys(or anyone) hit or in any way touch them, and that it’s okay to defend themselves if necessary, that seemed to translate to this little girl as she can be a total hurtful brat as long as the person she is hurting is a boy. And her mom saw no problem with what her daughter did.
Another example was a 6 year old girl who refused to leave my 8 year old alone, following him around and chanting “baby” over and over. I tried to encourage him to get away from her but she wouldn’t leave him alone. I frowned at her and said loudly that it wasn’t nice to call people names. Yet, she did not care and kept right on going. My 6 year old finally told her to stop it because she was the one who was a baby.
The girl took off running to tell her mom who was about half a soccer field away from us. They started walking back over to the playground and by the look on the mom’s face, she was ready for a fight. Because some mean boy had called her darling little girl a name. She started coming to where we were and I loudly said to my middle son that while it wasn’t nice of him to call someone a baby, I was proud of him for sticking up for his brother when that little girl would not stop calling him names. The mom stopped and shot me a nasty look, but headed to another part of the park.
These are just two examples of situations we’ve been in lately where I’ve thought that maybe girl power has gone too far.
And while I can’t protect my boys from everything and I do want them to learn to stand up for themselves, they still shouldn’t be treated like that by little girls who should have been taught better.
Maybe these instances are rare and we just have uncommonly bad luck in who we run into out in town.
Or maybe I don’t get it because I’m just a boy mama.
Have you had any experiences with too much girl power?