About Jennifer of Just Jennifer: Life isn’t always easy, but I love the people in it! I blog for free therapy, social and neural stimulation, and to maintain a sense of self while tending to the needs of my family. It is also my hope that I might be able to shine a light into the world. My life is a roller coaster!
I recently saw something on Facebook about judging someone you see using food stamps for maybe not looking “poor enough”, and it sparked something in me.
I hate to talk about money and am pretty sure I have only mentioned anything about it on my blog in passing. But I’m here to say that my family could be judged similarly.
My husband and I both have legal disabilities, dialysis for him, bad eyes for me. Mark works LESS than part-time. I don’t work outside the home at all because my family needs me too much. I have blogging and do make a little money or receive free products because of it. It’s a very nice perk and I will never apologize for it.
Due to our disabilities we receive Social Security benefits, our children are on state medical and get free school lunches. My daughter receives financial assistance for her Girl Scout activities. My husband also receives assistance towards his medical bills. We live month to month, rarely have any savings and are always in some debt.
We have some nice things because they have been gifts from loved ones. My daughter wears some nice clothes because her Godmother sends hand-me-downs from her nieces. Mark drives a Volvo, but it’s 12 years old and in need of repairs. Indulging to me is Starbucks or a movie. I get to drink great wine once a month because I split the cost with three friends. I was able to order nice Christmas cards because of my blogging. I balk at the idea of spending $30 on a pair of shoes. I get my hair cut at the local beauty school.
I’m not here to complain about my financial circumstances. Mostly because I choose to focus on what I do have rather than what I don’t. What I’m trying to say, and what the post I saw on Facebook was trying to say is , don’t assume you know things about a person just by looking, just by seeing surfacey things. There is always more to the story.
Such as, my husband still works a little even though he has every reason not to due to his poor health. But he pushes himself for many reasons, one of which is being a contributing member of society. We may receive various forms of assistance, but we also still pay taxes. In fact, most people receiving assistance merely need some extra help to get by. It does NOT mean they are lazy, good-for-nothin’ slackers.
You wouldn’t have known any of this about me if I hadn’t chosen to talk about it because you cannot know these things about someone you only know online. Will you judge me based on this? I hope not. I ask that we all just try to hold our judgments for more important things, don’t assume and have some compassion.
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