The Baby Stage

I held my baby nephew for the first time yesterday.

He’s  a few weeks old but was just able to come home this weekend.

I marveled at his tiny hands, feet, legs, arms, fingers, toes…

Were my boys ever this small?

Maybe not quite, as my nephew is a peanut, but mine weren’t much bigger.

But as I held him and he drifted off to sleep, my own “baby” came into the room.

Dark hair turned lighter from all his time in the sun this summer, skin browned(despite using SPF 50 on him at all times), built solid and strong. Laughing and smiling, dimples flashing. Talking a mile a minute.

My youngest baby is 4, headed to school 5 days a week this fall. Able to keep up with his big brothers(and sometimes best them).

Strollers, diapers, pacifiers, middle of the night feedings: all a thing of the past.

Though we made the decision a few years ago that we were done having babies, that baby twinge took a while to really go away.

But as I pass the baby back to his mom, I don’t feel the slightest twinge of regret that my baby is a “big boy” instead of a newborn.

Does holding a newborn make you want another or are you past the baby stage?

Comments

  1. We always knew we wanted more than one baby, so the baby fever was always there for us. Now that we have a second on the way, I’m still debating if this will be all for us or if maybe just ONE more is in our future. I haven’t had my fixes of babies yet.  :) But, I will say that I don’t mind giving other kids back to their mom. There’s a difference between their baby’s and my own. LOL
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  2. Right now? I am immune to baby fever. Having a toddler is just about all I can handle right now and since I’ll be a SAHM soon (three weeks!), I want to enjoy some time with her before adding a pregnancy in the mix. Honestly, I could see us waiting awhile to have another baby. Neither of us are ready right now – glad we’re on the same page! :)
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  3. At 47 I think I’m probably finished but I still feel a little sad when I snuggle a new little one.
    Sand

  4. I must be tired. I can’t even spell my own name.
    Sandy
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  5. My mom is not done with me having babies as she suggested perhaps a third???

    I told her that this womb is closed for business :) I do understand the baby fever. I am IN LOVE with my 2 month old. In. Love.
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  6. I am SO not done with the baby stage – just reading your description of your nephew made me desperately want another newborn. There is something magical in the sleep-deprived and utterly exhausted stage.

    Just thinking about those tiny hands and feet is truly wonderful. And I miss it, even though I have a 4 y.o, 2 y.o and 8 MONTH old. The 8 month old is more of a crawling meatball with teeth, he’s too busy exploring and chewing to be a cuddly newborn ;-)
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  7. I’d get a puppy. 
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  8. So done with the babies.

  9. I just held a newborn this weekend too.  Our friends had a baby last weekend, so this one was only 6 days old.  It made me excited for my own.  Though I’m still so scared.  I’m realizing more and more, how we were on the “down swing” with Buster and Buddy, and we’ll just be ramping up again.  It’s scary.
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  10. I’m having baby #2 so not past the baby stage yet…but I know it’s crazy to see how big Nolan is now compared to a baby. And it does make you think—were they so small?
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  11. Totally over little babies!!! We have canceled our “Verizon contract” as we call it. It us our new every two year plan. Next month the baby will be two and no desire to add. Our family is complete.

  12. OMG, I had this same thought this week. One of my best friends moved to Hungary at 7 months pregnant this week and she just had him 10 days ago, so all I see are the FB updates and pics and he was only 5.5 lbs (mine were both over 8)…it made me get the hunger pang for a 3rd baby. I kind of do want to try for a girl, but have a sneaking suspicion I’d get a 3rd boy, so I’m not rushing it…but I definitely miss cuddling with a tiny infant. My youngest turns 2 next month! Ah, time flies too fast! http://www.styleyoyster.blogspot.com
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  13. I really don’t feel complete yet so any newborn gives me ovarian twinges. I honestly do not know whether we will have more children or not though. I have two beautiful, healthy kids now and I’m eternally grateful for them. My youngest is only 15 months though, so it’s certainly still a possibility.
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  14. Urg, I meant to say she moved in May when she was 7 months preggers and had him 10 days ago, he was full-term…LOL
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  15. First, congrats on your new nephew! How wonderful.

    Yes, every time I hold a baby or even SEE a newborn I want another one ;)

  16. Honestly, I’m on the fence. I still get the baby twinge but I can’t imagine handling one more.
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  17. Both! As you described, I get the twinges whenever I see a new baby, and I appreciate that our family is complete. I would love another child yet won’t be missing much of the newborn routines. I love the ages my girls are now. Any ideas how I can freeze them at 8 and 4? :-)
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  18. We hope to have a second child in a few years, so I’m definitely not past the baby stage!
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  19. I.WANT.MORE! Still having major baby fever. I miss holding them at that age.

    Congrats on your nephew
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  20. I am soooo past the baby stage! But when I hold one something happens in my head and for a few brief moments I lose connection with reality and think that I want another one to hold & cuddle. Thankfully I am brought out of that quickly!
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  21. We’re Done. My husband was done the minute we found out we were having a second :) It’s still hard for me; I love that they’re getting bigger, but I still have part of me that would LOVE another. It’s a little, tiny, tucked away part, but it’s still there.
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  22. My third child was born b/c I held a neighbor’s baby! Now that my kids are adults, I long for a grandchild. I can’t do anything about that though. :-)
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  23. I always wanted three but my doctors told me no more. I get baby fever when I see an empty infant carrier and those things just plan suck to carry around.
    Your nephew is adorable. I was going to ask if he was a preemie when I saw the photo you posted. He reminds me of my teeny tiny 4 and 3 pound old girls.
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  24. I think that baby love is something that will always be there. That is what will make us good grandmas some day. A long, long, long time from now.
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  25. Sometimes I get the twinge, but I’m willing to wait for my daughter to take care of that for me.
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  26. Well, just having had my baby six weeks ago, there’s absolutely no baby fever going on around here – and four boys is enough, so we’re officially finito. However … my husband made the appointment for his vasectomy consultation and I have to admit it made me a little sad. I don’t want any more babies, but the thought of not being ABLE to have any more, never being able to change our minds, gives me a bit of a twinge.
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  27. I ALWAYS get a twinge, but it passes fast. Thankfully.
    I’d love the job professional baby cuddler and as soon as one comes up, I’ll apply.
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  28. Most of the time I am good and that twinge doesn’t get me… but every once in a while it does just a tiny.
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  29. No!  I don’t get any twinges–sometimes I think something must be wrong with me?  Maybe when my kids are more past the baby stage I’ll miss it?  (I doubt it!)
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  30. I’m past that baby stage. It was HARD making that decision and there are times that I feel a tinge of regret. But I’m happy being a threesome and wouldn’t xhange a thing!
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  31. AW, HELL no. For me holding a newborn does the opposite. I’m all “Good luck, honey!” Don’t get me wrong, they’re adorable & all and sometimes I miss when my little guy was that small…but the baby fever thing has definitely passed. LOL.
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  32. Oh my goodness! Look at those cute pictures!! Definitely love the baby stage, though we have only experienced it once, can’t wait to try it again!

  33. I felt the twinge for so many years and then after having Gia, it just went away. I think I was meant to have 4 and the desire for more is really gone. I do love holding my nephew and having him fall asleep on me but like you, seeing Gia do the things she can do now makes me okay with it being over.
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  34. I look at how quickly my guy has gotten to be four and I get the twinge too.
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  35. It definitely makes me want another, but I only have one, and I dont want this other baby for awhile now. Mine is only 9 months and I’d like to be able to sleep through the night more often than not before I start thinking of throwing a newborn into the mix. 
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  36. Congrats on your family’s new addition! I absolutely love the baby stage and I miss it when I hold a newborn. I feel like I didn’t really have time to enjoy those months with the twins or with Reese having 2 two year olds when he was born. But our youngest is now 4- and I can not wait to meet our new little guy next month!! My older boys are so out of the baby stage, I can’t wait to actually hold this one for longer than 3 seconds…
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  37. Kiara Wood says:

    kids grow up fast and if we can’t noticed them soon they will become an adult, so we should make time with them as much as we could. 
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  38. I just had my first one a year ago, so I know I’ll be pretty well steeped in the baby stage for the next 5 or so years. In some ways, that is depressing, but then it’s also nice to know that hopefully, if things work out, I’ll get to experience the newborn stage at least two more times!
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  39. Oh, I get the twinge, but I think I’ll still get it when I’m 80! When I was in the hospital after having my third, my doctor stopped by to check on me. She also has three kids and she very wisely said, “Even when they’re past the baby stage, they don’t stop needing you.”
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  40. We made the decision about a year ago to remain our little family of three.  This past Spring, a couple of my friends had babies, and I admit that I wondered if snuggling those newborns would make me start to second guess our decision and wish for a second baby.  I did that itch.  But it wasn’t for A baby…it was totally a moment of missing MY baby.  And that made me realize that I am *for sure* content with not having any more.  I don’t want another…just wish that I could have him back in that newborn stage every once and a while.  :)
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  41. This is where I have to confess that Katarina is the first and only baby I have ever held. I think I picked up my friend’s kid when he was two, because we were in a store and he was about to knock over a display, but that is it. 

    I do get the twinges sometimes. But now is not the time to give in to them. Maybe one day…
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  42. I can’t hold a newborn… I know I will sob like a baby! I have three little cherubs and we have decided that’s it, but doesn’t make me feel any less clucky/sad when I see a tiny baby. Having babies totally made my life. I feel useful and contented – I guess I have to wait for grandkids now!
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  43. I don’t miss babies, but the idea of never having another toddler is what I have issues with. I LOVE the toddler-preschooler age range.. watching them discover the world through their eyes, etc. The boys are in the midst of it, and I LOVE every minute of it.
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  44. I love holding itty bitties, but because I work in daycare I can pretty much do it whenever I want. I don’t know if it is because my last baby was soooooo challenging or just because we feel done, but I don’t really get the baby urge to have another.

    Now call me crazy and I am sure some will, but I totally get the toddler urge. If someone could just give me a two or three year old I would probably be all over that.

  45. Babies are the sweetest….if only I was younger….l.
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  46. Reading your post, my heart was immediately a-flutter with desire for another one. Not done yet.
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  47. I am SOOO past the baby stage.  My baby is 11.  I love snuggling & playing with my baby niece – and then GIVING HER BACK.  It’s totally the best of both worlds!
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  48. My husband told me over the weekend he wanted to adopt a baby. (After our GREAT surprise with Sarah Beth, we took steps to make sure that won’t happen again). I asked him what he’d been smoking! I LOVE my babies. All 3 of them. (4 if you count my BIGGEST baby)! But I’ve had a kid at home for THIRTEEN YEARS. Sarah will be starting Kindergarten in the Fall and I’m hoping to be able to spend more time concentrating on my jobs. Also, we’re just getting to the point where we can leave them at home for a couple of hours with Jason babysitting, as long as we don’t stray too far from home. At this rate, I’ll be 55 before she heads off to college. COLLEGE people! COLLEGE! No thank you. As much as I LOVE my kids, I DO NOT WANT ANYMORE!
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  49. I’m with you Shell. I have three kids (ages 8, 5 and almost 2). I love the stages they are all in, and I know my family is complete now. I’m actually kind of anxious to get rid of some of the baby things and to embrace the new era we are entering. I’ll look to get my newborn baby snuggles elsewhere. :)
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  50. I’m somewhere in the middle, I think. I also marvel at the tininess of newborns and have a hard time wrapping my brain around the fact that Lil’ Bit was ever that small. I love babies’ baby smell and baby squirminess and all the little baby noises they make, and it definitely causes and estrogen surge and kicks my uterus into overdrive.

    But I look at my daughter and know in my heart that I’m done. Whereas a year ago I yearned for the bygone days of infancy, now I don’t miss the so much anymore. I’m good. 

    But I still love holding a newborn. 
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  51. We are still in baby stage!  I won’t be too sad when I’m not though!

  52. I’d sure love some more grandbabies! I adore my grandkids but sure don’t want to raise them… Been there, done that but of course if I had to I would. They are treasures, angels from above! 
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  53. Mine isn’t even a month old yet and I still get that fever. Clearly I have issues. ;)

  54. Nope! i can finally say that I am cured of all baby fever. I don;t know if that means I’m getting old or smart? Every once in a while the thought will cross my mind, but then two seconds later, I’m back to normal. :)
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  55. My husband and I always said 6. We are at 5 with our brand new little one who is 3 weeks. The last one was a difficut pregnancy and delivery. But we both go (have gone) back and forth on the one more. I just don’t know and I want to be sure. But in reading teh comments will I ever feel done? Or be totally sure. I just don’t know.
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  56. Even though my youngest is still a baby at 5 months old, holding a newborn makes me thankful that he’s getting older!! I am so done procreating at this point (hence yesterday’s IUD!!) and am happy to watch my two sweet boys grow older and more independent. Of course, I still crave that sweet baby smell and the cuddles shared while nursing, so I am sure to savor each of these moments with my “last” baby. I’m committing it all to memory because these days won’t be coming back!

  57. I don’t miss those baby days at all. I enjoyed them while I had them but I’m glad they are now done. 
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  58. This post leaves me with goosebumps. What a beautiful reflection on life and motherhood. I have felt that twinge to have babies, but I know you are approaching it from an entirely different angle. I just hope one day to watch my baby grow and to understand that nostalgia that you must have felt holding you baby nephew. 

    Gorgeous. 
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  59. I always, always feel that twinge of wanting another baby.  After having nine of them, you’d think I’d run the other direction, but that just isn’t the case.  I always want one more.  And I usually always get one more. Except this time.  My youngest will be 4 in just a few days, my biggest age gap (should I conceive) and to be honest, I don’t really want that age gap.  But yet I always want another baby.  But I don’t want that gap.  And I’m jogging and losing weight and getting used to having my body back.  But yet…another baby!   The thought of that makes me all warm and cozy.  And then Aunt Flo arrives and I’m happy and relieved.  So what does that tell me?  That I will always feel that twinge of wanting another baby, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that I want another baby.  Confused?  Yea, so am I.
    *sigh*
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  60. Really, I don’t feel regret on seeing my kids grow. I just treasure every moment I’m with my kids. 
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