Two and a half years ago, my family made a sudden move from PA back down to NC: we went from not even considering moving to being packed up and gone in less than a month.
We had to move, as our house was poisoning one of my sons and we had to move so he could get better and before the other kids could get hurt.
Our plan was to move close to where we had previously lived in NC… but a few towns over.
And that’s what we did for the first six months.
Then we ended up back in the town where we used to live, pre-kids, pre-move to PA.
Two years ago
A place I really hadn’t wanted to go back to.
I had my friends who were teachers when we lived here before, but I never found my place after we had kids.
Not belonging with the military wives or the locals who’d all known each other forever, I never felt like I fit.
I just kept saying that it wasn’t a big deal, that we’d move again anyway, so I didn’t really need to worry about feeling like this is home.
But now my kids are in elementary school. We finally have my middle son in a school where there’s an amazing team to help him and he can have all the same teachers next year.
And this area is convenient for Hubs’ job but whatever. He also travels a ton, so I feel like I have a case for us not living super close to his office.
So suddenly, looking at houses in other towns doesn’t seem realistic: not for at least another year and maybe even longer since change doesn’t seem to be something that is all that good for our child with special needs. Especially not after finding a school staff that cares so much about helping him.
We can look in this same area, where my kids would still go to this same school, sure. But, not outside of this neighborhood.
But it’s time for me to start thinking differently.
To realize that this is my home.
And to find a way to find my place here.
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How do you do this? How do you write about what I need to think about?? We’re thinking about listing the house, but it’s so much work and it’s not b/c we don’t love the house (and all of the updates we’ve made with it), but we need more space. I hope you can find your peace and be happy…it should be easier than this, right?
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I can’t really imagine moving. OMG, do I hate to pack.
Hey girl. It stinks. I’m kind of going through the same thing. Now that I quit my job – I don’t think we are going to be able to move to the community I thought we would be able to. I have hardly any friends HERE. I don’t even know all the roads and we’ve lived here for 5 years. I’m so with you. Tell me how you do it, ok? And I will do what you do. xo
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We live in a nice neighborhood- it’s not that- it’s just that this isn’t where I thought we’d be. I’d be okay somewhere smaller in a different town, but it’s just not what is best for my kids.
Shell, how did I not know you were in NC? So am I. I swear I miss a lot. After college, Husband and I moved back to the city where I was raised and it was a very hard transition for me. We have since moved a couple of hours away where we feel much more comfortable. Being a multi-racial family in the mountains of NC was NOT working out for us at all. We’re much happier now in a place where we don’t stick out like sore thumbs. Great post, as always.
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I don’t really talk about where we are all that much.
I imagine that would be hard in some of the bass-ackwards areas of this state!
I can imagine that is hard. I live in the same town I grew up in, so I have my same friends. Although its harder for T who grew up 2 hours south of where we live and is still having a hard time making friends and trying to fit in here. Its been 4 years and he still has trouble. Good luck, friend! XO
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My husband grew up here so he has all his childhood friends so he doesn’t get it. Plus when we were in PA, he found friends… but he doesn’t realize how different it is when it’s a small town.
That’s so hard. The sort of but not quite fitting in thing. I feel that way a lot bc being married to a musician is just different. I have my friends, but he’s not as close with their husbands and I always feel like I’m walking a tightrope.
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That would be so hard, too. We need to actually be able to live in blogland.
I hope you find your way and you find happiness in this place.
Tayarra recently posted..I speak for
Thank you- I’m realizing I need to try harder.
I’ve been in your shoes before, and it’s no fun. A friend told me, “bloom where you’re planted” and that helped me change my perspective. I’ve now gotten to know more of my neighbors and feel more a part of things. Good luck! You will figure it out.
Mamarific recently posted..A Mother’s Hands
I need to adopt that perspective!
I know what you are going through. It took me almost two and half years to feel like I fit in our neighborhood and small town. What really worked for me was the girls settling into school and finding friends and passions that they wouldn’t have had elsewhere. I hope you find that at home feeling soon. You certainly deserve it…you make so many of us feel at home here! xo
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Thanks, girl. xo
I’ve lived where I live for over 10 years, and I still sometimes feel like I don’t fit in!
I hope you find your fit and your happiness.
Alison@Mama Wants This recently posted..A Voice
So hard, isn’t it?
Girl- go get some rest!!!! Loved seeing the pics of your precious new one!
I understand so much what you are saying here. We have been living in Orlando for almost five years now, and I am just realizing that we need to call it home and treat it like such if we are staying. That has been hard for me to admit.
Tracie recently posted..Hope Is The Thing With Feathers
It’s so hard when you think you might leave. I need to change my attitude.
I’m still trying to fit where we are too and we are here for the same reasons you are there. Because it’s the best place for my daughter… a decision I’m sure neither of us will ever regret.
Jessica recently posted..Who Was Your Mr. W?
No, we won’t regret it at all- and it’s what is finally helping me to feel more like this is permanent.
I understand the sacrifices you make for your kids, especially a child with special needs. We stayed in our house, and our town, because of the SPED department and the care he was receiving. We are doing our best to make it a house we love. Dream house it is not….but sometimes other things are more important.
Michelle
http://www.normalchaosoframultitaskmom.com
Nothing really wrong with the house- it’s more me feeling like I don’t fit. But, it looks like we’ll be here for a while, so I need to change my views.
You KNOW I understand how you feel, considering I’ve never lived anywhere longer than 6 years in my entire life. We’ve been in our house 5 1/2 now, and I keep insisting that it’s time to move on. I am not sure I’ll ever feel settled…or get over the urge to move, but this post is a great reminder that maybe I need to take a deep breath and appreciate where I am for a bit.
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We’ve moved so much, I don’t think I know what it’s like to say this is my home. Trying to change my thinking.
That’s a tough place to be. I hope you find a way to feel at home in your new place.
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Me, too. Thanks!
That last line of yours–yes. I’ve lived in this city for nearly 12 years and it STILL doesn’t feel like home. I wonder if it ever will. But maybe I’m the one not letting it.
Rach (DonutsMama) recently posted..Monday Listicles: A Day in the Life
That’s what I’m thinking about myself- that I was holding me back. Going to try an attitude change and see if it helps at all.
With the housing market the way it is, I have to start thinking the way you do. I have to find a way for this house to feel like home. With my oldest going to high school and the three older ones deeply involved in community sports, it’s not likely we are going anywhere. We’ve lived here for almost 8 years and I still don’t feel like it is. Let me know if you find the secret to doing it.
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That’s a long time to feel like you’re not at home. Maybe we can both figure this out!
I have lived in this same town my whole life. I grew up here and now my oldest is in the same school that I attended. But at the same time, I don’t feel like I fit in here sometimes. I don’t know many neighbors and I don’t fit in with the other moms at my son’s school. I’ve thought of moving away before, but then I realized that even through the other stuff, this is still home.
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I’m so old compared to a lot of the moms around here. At almost 35, I have 10+ years on them. And I’m not military. It’s such a strange feeling.
My best friend and I were recently discussing something similar. Each of us lost a house to the economy. Luckily I skirted by foreclosure and was able to do a short-sale. I was absolutely crushed. (wow, I just deleted about three lines realizing I may as well just write a blog post) In any case, we have both found that the places we are renting now feel more like home than our actual homes did. I am not sure why, whether it be the neighborhood or the house. But maybe it was just going through something as a family. Hmmmm, thanks for the post idea, lol.
Sounds like a whole series in there!
Same here – downsizing and moving opened up doors for our family. Although I am not always happy with where I am, I’m fortunate to be in a healthcare hub, which is important for my family.
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You’re trying to find your way and that counts big time! I hope you will soon..
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Thanks- I hope so, too.
I completely understand this. When I was married, we moved every two years and I never found “home.” It used to annoy my ex because I still considered “home” my parents house. I told him when he let me live some place for 23 years, we’d talk! I’ve found “home” here and more importantly, so have my children.
Although, I have to admit, I’m pretty disappointed in the people of my “home” state this morning!
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I’m glad you have found home! Yeah- lots of NC drama today.
I totally get this. I hate my house. We have lived here 7.5 years with the thought that after the first couple of years we would move, but the housing marketing threw a wrench in those plans. So here we are still.
I hate the house, but recently have started to invest a little more time in it because at this point I don’t think we are going anywhere soon.
I hope you find your happy place in your hometown.
I never would have picked this house- even though it’s nice. But when we were planning our move back down here, I told my husband I was okay with it as long as we didn’t go back to this town… and he agreed, but 6 months later, that’s where we ended up. Trying to make peace with it, though.
*hugs* I haven’t really moved out of the area, but I know the feeling of a place not “feeling like home” because of the people around y0u. Here’s hoping it feels like home, and feels like a place you belong, very soon.
Jenn [ Crippled Girl ] recently posted..Next Year Will Be Better
My family helps that feeling- I just need to extend that to the rest of my life.
I think sometimes life gives us little blessings to appreciate where we are living. There is always some great in every community. We find it, and it brings us peace as to where we reside. I’m so glad that the school situation is working well. I wouldn’t want to disrupt that either.
Leigh Powell Hines (@Hinessightblog) recently posted..How Hard is It for Kids to Learn to Wait?
The school is what is finally bringing me around to accepting being here, for sure.
This is a wonderful post. It’s happened to me too, but not quite as traumatising I suppose. Moving 1000km from home so that I could go to university was so difficult on me. I still miss home, but where I am now is slowly growing on me.
BarefootMedStudent recently posted..Pouring My Heart Out About Birthing Plans
That would be a big switch!
I feel you. I’ve lived here for 15 years and I still don’t fit in. I love our home, I don’t know how we’d ever move, but sometimes I wonder, what if…
Adapting should be easier.
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It really should be!
You are there for a reason. It may only be have the best school for your son, but I know He has you there and the people around you are blessed because you are there.
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Now that things are going better at school, it’s helping me to see that it’s good that we are here.
I think you are an amazing mother to make sacrifices to better the lives of your kids. Once we have kids, our life is truly not our own anymore, yet we still have to find ways to make it work for our own personal fulfillment too, which is seems like you have found with your blog.
I too dream of moving from Houston, back to the East Coast to be closer to my family. I feel the separation from my twin sister like a physical ache that grows worse with time, not better. Sometimes people ask me about her and I start crying, which is kind of embarrassing. I miss everyone, but I just want to raise our kids together and go to the park together.
It isn’t going to happen, and I am coming to terms with it. My husband’s job is here, and my kids are so happy in their school and with their life. I have an immense amount of joy in my life, and I realize I am extremely lucky, but it is hard to accept that this is it sometimes. I am going to live in Houston, and that is it. We are going to NY this summer to stay with my twin for two weeks, which is our longest trip home, and I told my husband those weeks will continue to grow over the next few years, hopefully until the entire summer is there. He can come back and forth, and I just need a computer right? My kids need time with my family, and I think it will fill me up for the rest of the year.
That all being said, I totally understand some of the decisions you have had to make, and I really respect you as a person and Mother.
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My siblings are all back in PA and I hate being away from my nieces and nephews, though moving back there will probably never be an option.
It’s all in what is best for my family, even if it makes me a little pout-y sometimes.
You’ve talked about it before, and I feel sad that you can’t find a set of people who welcome you with open arms. You have so much to offer friends, and I just have to believe you will find a way to make your home your home. xo
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Thanks, sweet friend!
We’ve had to move several times for my husband’s job, and it’s not easy. I think it’s harder once you have kids, because they start feeling a part of the new community even if we don’t. We’ve lived in our current house for more than two years now, and my husband and I both agreee that we don’t want to uproot our family again.
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The kids definitely feel like this is home, so that changes things.
I attach so much of myself to where I live – and how that does or does not match up to where I want to live. I also don’t feel like I quite fit in where we are living and I’m longing to live somewhere else. But we’re in the same boat, we’re not moving anytime soon. I’m also trying to just settle in and make this feel better.
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Hope we can both find a way to do that!
I handpicked where we live and I still feel like we don’t fit in sometimes. It is hard. As much as I push myself to make friends and feel in – I usually revert back to my old ways. We aren’t moving any time soon though – we can’t afford to!
Diana recently posted..PYHO – Take Me Back to Another Place in Time
I’m not the most outgoing person anyway, which makes it harder. I can be, but I need my quiet. Not the best way to be when you’re trying to meet new people.
Aww! I’m from NC and I would be your friend! Your boys are adorable by the way! I only have one, but he is such a blessing!
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Thank you- they definitely help make this feel like home.
Hey there! I am writing mine now, but wanted to comment on yours. I live in NC. I was raised in a military town. I live by the beach. I would love to know where you are in NC. I felt the SAME way. Not local, not military. I wonder if you are close? I would love to meet you!
Hope all is well. Thanks for having this link up!
It’s entirely possible. Will have to email. I don’t put specific info out there.
As usual, I can relate. I grew up in the Dallas- Fort Worth area of Texas, a few years ago my husband moved us to a tiny town in Kansas. I told him he had 2 years here. 9 years later, here we are, and it looks like we must call this home forever because it is so hard to move when you have special needs in the family. I’m adjusting, and it feels like home now. It will happen for you too.
Created In His Image recently posted..My Daughter, Ashley
It’s just that much harder when you are dealing with special needs, I think. I’m convinced my other two could handle a transition with very little problems, but it’s starting all over and getting people to understand how to best help my middle son- that makes me never want to move.
Yes, it is probably time to find your place there.
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Can’t we just be neighbors?
I still want you here!!! Selfish I know
. It is hard to find friends at our age – I don’t want to deal with a lot of the crap that making new friends can bring
I know! I miss you so much!!!
Someday I hope to be able to make that mental switch myself.
Emmy recently posted..The Comparison Trap
It’s such a hard thing- especially when you move as much as we do!
I’m a firm believer in “if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it”. Sounds like that’s what you need to do, and I know you can!
Just Jennifer recently posted..The Calm After the Storm
That’s exactly what I need to do..
My sister-in-law moved to California from New Jersey eight years ago after having lived there her entire life. I think she viewed the change as temporary, always imagining they’d return.
So even though she wanted to make friends and feel *at home* there was a part of her that held back; because why fall in love with a place and its people if you’re leaving?
I’m sure this wasn’t conscious on her part; she knows it, too. Anyway, last year, they almost moved back for a work opportunity. She was thrilled. I was crushed but supportive. When the job fell through, they made the commitment to stay here and FIND happiness and it’s like she’s a new woman.
The switch finally flipped in her brain and she said, “I’m here. This is home.” I swear it’s been miraculous. I’m not saying this is your situation at all. But sometimes when the decision is made in your brain that you’re staying, your heart follows suit and finds what it’s been missing all along.
And either way? You always have us.
XO
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That’s exactly how it was with me. Thinking we wouldn’t be here long. Knowing that we’re going to be here longer is changing my perspective.
I feel for you! Making friends as an adult is so hard. I have finally made my first friend (by myself, not through my sister) after being in this ”new” town for 9 years.
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I had to start all over in PA, too- but somehow, that was easier. I don’t know if it was the town or that my kids were younger, or what. But need to make more of an effort now.
I never want to move back to my “home town”, because it never felt like home. I hope things change as you grow and everything falls into place. It seems like a great location, but I pray it grows on you emotionally!
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This is my husband’s hometown and I think the big shock for him was that he ever left. Trying to make peace with it.
It’s hard, to make inroads in a different place. xoxo
Nicole recently posted..Good Vibrations (not THOSE kind of vibrations)
So hard!
You have taken a great first step toward fitting in by making the choice to find your place.
Paula @ Simply Sandwich recently posted..Living a Double Life
Hoping the change in attitude will help me.
I am so worried about this when we are talking about moving to NC. But excited at the same time. I feel like the “new kid” at school kinda syndrome. I hope you find your place <3 and I'm VERY glad that they are taking good care of your son at his school!
Jenn @ So This is Love recently posted..Evelyn
We’ve made a lot of moves and I’ve always managed to find my place- it’s just taking longer this time around.
I read your post about the blood draws and I hope you get this message. And I hope it helps. My lO has monthly blood draws. I will NEVER let them even think about sticking him until he has a numbing cream on and I know it’s had enough time to work. They choose the vein (or 2) for the day and then I apply LMX or EMLA cream. They give me a little plastic patch to cover it with, but I’ve also taped plasic wrap or Peel-n-Stick. After 15 mins they wipe it off and stick him. He knows it’s coming, but he doesn’t feel it. I also use it when shots are necessary. It is available by prescription and since they always use the same vein, I now apply at home so it’s a quicker day in the clinic.
I’ve also had multiple people tell me I couldn’t hold him for the stick. I politely but in no uncertain terms tell them I absolutely will hold him. I apologize for the inconvenience and remind them he’s actually the one who is being inconvenienced! If necessary, I’ve (twice) had to say I will wait for someone else who is able to do it in a way that prioritizes his needs, even if it means calling the patient advocate.
Good luck to you and your little man. Your love for him warms my heart and I think I’m going to finish my little man’s nap right next to him
Thankfully, they have slowed way down and he doesn’t have to get them every month. But, I did learn after that one that I could insist on holding him. It makes such a difference.
I’m glad to hear that you want to make it work there. Sometimes roots grow when we’re not even aware it’s happening.
Missy | Literal Mom recently posted..No Guarantee
Beautifully put!
Home is where the heart is, yes? Then you are always home no matter where you live.
Jessica recently posted..A Failed Attempt
So true. And knowing that this is best for my kids helps.
We have been here now for 7 years. It was supposed to be temporary, but lately I pray often things don’t have to change any time soon. Solely for the kids sake. I haven’t fit in here since we moved here. Not the least. I don’t have friends. Sure I know parents of my kid’s friends, but I don’t have friends…and it sucks.
Hope you settle into your home for time needed.
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I hope that changes for you, too.
Feeling like you don’t fit in is such a sad and isolating thing. There is pain in your post, even with the resolution. I think it’s important that you shared this pain. Sometimes things weigh heavily on us, so heavily that we try not to think about or talk about them. I hope writing about it helped, if only a little. Maybe it will free your mind enough to make a plan.
Until you find your place, I hope you find moments of peace and happiness. Best wishes.
misssrobin recently posted..Post-it Note Therapy
It does help to write it out.
Sometimes as we write, I think not only are we letting stuff out, but we are telling ourselves things to help us…and then the comments that flow in confirm it. Great post here.
Lourie recently posted..Pouring My Heart Out
Thank you- I think I was trying to talk myself into it!
I’ve been in the States for over a decade and still feel like I just moved here!
Good luck to you, I like your attitude.
Carolyn recently posted..Motherhood Can Be Lonely
It’s hard to move, isn’t it?
It is so hard to live somewhere that doesn’t feel quite like home and makes you unsettled. I hope you can find your niche soon!
stephanie @ babe’s rockin’ mami recently posted..What a Pretty Little Girl
I hope so. Going to try!
I moved to Reno from MN to pursue a relationship with Hubster. For years, our intentions were to eventually move back to MN…not to my hometown but nearby. I often felt like I didn’t fit in; I think more because I didn’t allow myself to accept this place as more than my temporary home. I spent so much of my energy on dreaming out someday being “home,” that I didn’t take the time to look around and realize what a great life we were living in a beautiful city with a lot of great people who had befriended me despite my best efforts to not become attached to anything that was part of this life. I’d been here for five years before we finally allowed ourselves to make the decision that had been unfolding for us for quite some time…to stay here in Reno. We purchased a home, and there wasn’t any looking back.
Once we made that decision, it felt like things just clicked for me. I allowed myself to feel settled here and to plan for a future where we are. I made the decision to embrace Reno as my home, and that made a tremendous difference for me. I hope the same will be true for you.
Aramelle {One Wheeler’s World} recently posted..{The Story of Us} The Question
That sounds so very familiar.
It took me a long time to think of where we are as home and it is only 40 minutes from where I grew up. Take your time and feel what you feel. Your home as long as you are with your family.
Denise recently posted..Time Moves Pretty Fast
So true- having Hubs and the boys helps so much.
I understand how you feel and I live in the town I grew up in. Its so hard to make friends – especially in my situation where you AREN’T a mommy and thus don’t have even a kid to help you connect. Glad I found your PYHO link up.
Stephanie @ Our Marriage Adventure recently posted..Pour Your Heart Out: Shy Girl
I think that only works when they are babies, anyway.
Welcome!
I hope you start feeling like you fit in soon, but the most important thing, in my opinion, is to be happy, so I happy you find your happiness there and everything else will fall into place!
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Very true.
I think you KNOW I can relate to this!! It is harder once your kids start school and start making friends and when you have the support you need from teachers, that you do not want to leave behind. I think you can do it, Shell. In fact, I know you can. xoxo
Elaine recently posted..Matching Umbrella
If I had realized you were in NC I wouldnt have suggested a warm vacation escape on twitter the other day
DH and I had a similar conversation. We want to move south I just dont know what that will mean for Sammy
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I’m so happy that you all finding the help Bear needs there. I hope you start to feel more settled soon. Sometimes, I think it’s just a matter of what you mentioned here. Changing your thinking.
Forget the former things;
do not dwell on the past.
See, I am doing a new thing!
Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?
Isaiah 43:18-19
I love the last line. “Do you not see it?” It’s like God’s telling us to open our eyes and see what’s right in front of us. Right under our nose. Perhaps you ARE home. You just didn’t realize. <3
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I struggle with accepting minnesota as my home and wanting to move back to Chicago. This has just never really felt like my home. But it is so much easier to live here than to even think about moving. I hope you find a place that feels like home!
Marta recently posted..Call Her Beautiful.
Oh I know this feeling. We are in the process of moving and finding a new home , and I just want to find a place that will feel like home and it’s just not easy to know where that will be.
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I love what Mamarific said about blooming where you are planted…such a delightful perspective! I have a feeling a lot of us are in the same boat. We are in a similar situation right now but I feel like I’ve got a little time to figure it all out because my kids are still so young.
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I have experienced this kind of situation and it is not really good.. Sometimes, I even cry in one corner and I can’t do anything about it but to accept.. Anyway, I am sure a lot of people would want to give comments for this..
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I totally identify with this. It’s hard to embrace living in a place where you don’t feel you belong. But I know you can do it if that’s what you decide you want. Mind over matter, right?
Natalie @MamaTrack recently posted..A Dad’s Morning
I have often felt the same way about where I live. This has been hubby’s stomping grounds for over 20 years since he moved here from NY with his dad. I am the newcomer and sometimes still feel this way. I never wanted to move because we lived close to the kids school, they had their friends and I just made do. Now, the kids switched schools. I have to drive them and they have new friends. It’s tough sometimes because of the choices we have to make for our children.
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It’s hard sometimes, settling in. We have lived (where we live) for almost 9 years. It’s not exactly where I want to be, but it’s home. My stubbornness about settling in has left me with very few “local” friends. I just never invested enough in the other room moms (in elementary school) to make many friends here in our town. Now that my kids are middle school aged, that ship has past.
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I grew up in Queens. But I’ve lived in The Bronx for more than 10 years. I consider The Bronx my home.
Home means different things to us all. You have your place, you have your home – you just need to settle in. You’ll get there
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thanks for hosting again! its been a while since i joined in but it felt so good and even better to read and connect what others are going through as well!
Rhiannon recently posted..Crossroads
I moved to a very tiny country town when I was 16 and felt completely out of place after being raised in a very suburban area. Everyone knew each other their whole lives and I felt like a complete outsider. Thankfully I made a few lifelong friends there eventually, but I did end up moving back to suburbia after high school.
You are doing the best thing for your kids, and finding a great team for special needs is so important- You are a great mama! I hope you find something that makes you feel more connected soon, so you can thrive there along with your kiddos!
Lily recently posted..MM: Swollen Feet and Only Children
Thanks for hosting. It is just a couple of time to adjust and to feel at home
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It is hard to be in a place you don’t love. Hang in there.
Lee-Ann recently posted..Princess
I moved around a lot with the military and I know what it’s like to try and fit in. It is hard and I can totally relate. Someone told me once to bloom where you’re planted. It sounds nice but it’s hard to do. I wish you all the best and more. Thanks for being so open!
Holly from 300 Pounds Down recently posted..Tears in a Bottle
I hope we both stay here long enough to hang out a few more times!
Jayme recently posted..I Miss Shopping for Baby Girls
I left home when I was still 17 to go to college and I have never felt settled ever since until we bought our house here 3 years ago. I spent .. how many years? Well over 20 years like a tumbleweed. It feels soooo good to have roots!
Lady Jennie recently posted..Traipsing Through Provence
Its hard sometimes to just completely settle into our surroundings because the idea thst there is something better, more appealing out there tends to resurface. But yoh also rushed to move there so i understand it would be difficult to completely accept it as your home. Im glad you ate changing your tune, dear. Xoxo
Charlotte recently posted..chillin with queen bitty and the blond duck