Instead of saying “It’s okay,” Monkey responded with “I accept your apology.”
Shortly after breakfast, Bear(5) decided that it was time for a showdown, their term for wrestling. He ended up making Monkey cry.
Bear did say he was sorry.
But, Monkey replied with “I DON’T accept your apology. Now you have to do something to make me feel better.”
I was taken aback and then I remembered what his kindergarten teacher had taught his class last year.
When someone does something to another kindergartener, they have to say “I’m sorry.”
But, the response is NOT to be “That’s okay.”
Instead, they choose to say “I accept your apology” or “I don’t accept your apology.”
Sometimes it’s something simple: apology accepted. And other times, well, a simple “I’m sorry” doesn’t cut it.
And so the offender needs to do something to make up for it until the one who was hurt by them can say that they accept the apology.
A kindergarten lesson. But, it really hit me.
How many times has someone hurt me and they think that saying “I’m sorry” makes it all okay? They say “I’m sorry” and I feel like I have to reply “That’s okay” even when it’s NOT okay.
And how many times have I hurt someone and yet just said “I’m sorry” and moved along like that was enough?
Unintential slights, a misunderstanding, an accident: sorry should be enough.
But, having the ability to say “I’m sorry” doesn’t make it okay to truly hurt someone. Sometimes sorry isn’t enough.
Kindergarteners know this.
I’m going to learn from them.
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