Pour Your Heart Out: The Positive over the Negative

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Be Positive

Do you ever have a line jump out at you from a movie or a book or a conversation and have it stick with you?

Probably whatever you were watching or reading or talking about was about so much more, but it’s that one line that you can’t get out of your head? Or maybe the actual words blur a bit, but their meaning burrows its way into your mind, into your heart.

I had a moment like that at Blissdom last week during the opening keynote by @jonacuff (yes, we call people by their twitter names). While he talked about so many big ideas and so much of it resonated with the crowd, this is what did it for me:

“You must repond to one hundred positive comments before you are allowed to reply to one negative.”

Jon talked about examples of people who get rave reviews from almost everyone and then get one negative: and it’s the negative one that sticks with them.

But, by doing that, we are saying that one person’s negative opinion is more important than 100 positive.

And that’s not right.

That’s not healthy.

That’s not a good use of our time.

With bloggers, the “comment” part hits home; we see it all the time when someone gets tons of positive comments on a post they write and then one negative and it’s the one negative that spurs angry tweets, facebook statuses, follow-up posts, and communities to go after the offender.

But, even more than blogging, this spoke to me on a personal level.

You see, while I was at Blissdom, I had a blast with women I’ve met before and was so happy to see again, women I’ve only talked to on twitter/in blogland and couldn’t wait to meet face-to-face, women that I look up to, and women that our first introduction at all was because we met then.

Hugs all around. Laughs, good times, discussion, jokes, dinners, drinks, dancing, being a woo-girl, getting lost in the hotel together, chatting in a session.

I felt very much like I belonged there.

But, there will always be that one.

Who rolls her eyes at whatever you say.

Who turns and whispers frantically in a friend’s ear right after you talk to her.

Whose face can’t hide her obvious disdain.

But, I had a choice to make: waste all my time and energy trying to sell myself as someone worthy of friendship to that one person or spend the time with people that not only did I want to be with but who also wanted to spend time with me, too.

The keynote echoed in my head and I made a choice: don’t make the 1 negative more important than the 100 positive.

Focusing on the positive made my trip a fabulous experience.

Do you get caught up in the negative or can you let it go and focus on the positive?

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  1. says

    Wow. Seriously Shell… where are you coming up with these posts? This is great! I think you are so right. I think I’m aware of it because as a teacher (former .. now, I guess) I know that – the one negative might stick with them forever. I can still remember word – for – word reprimands I got in school. But, really – there was someone at Blissdom that did that? Boo! And yay for you for ignoring it! I worry when I comment, because I don’t know all the rules. That I might do something rude. But – I’m not usually purposefully rude. So proud of you for focusing on the good stuff. .. Like Rascal Flatts. :)
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    • Shell says

      That opening was so awesome.  Excited that it will be on the Bliss at Home thing.

      No letting a negative overtake all the positive that is out there. My new mantra. That I probably already drove you crazy with this weekend. 

    • Shell says

      I needed to hear that opening keynote. I think in the past, I would have ended up focusing on one negative and let it ruin the rest- which would have been a shame, since there were so many wonderful people there! 

  2. says

    Your message is perfect in its timing, Shell. It really hits me spot on! I’ve got goosebumps reading this. Definitely taking a mental note of this one. THANK YOU so, so much for sharing this.
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  3. says

    Someone rolled their eyes at you? RUDE! I wish we would have had more time to get to know each other, but I was so overwhelmed that I really didnt talk to many people that I had planned on. I was so inspired by Jon. He hit home with me on a lot of points, but especially the negative comments. Hope I get to see you at Type A. 
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  4. says

    So sorry you experienced that negative. You’re a wonderful person and I wish I had had more time to talk with you this weekend.

    Focusing on the positive is a great reminder and something that I try so hard to do. It’s not always easy, but I’m trying.
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    • Shell says

      Oh, btw, if you rolled your eyes at me b/c I had to touch your baby bump, that would be totally okay. 😉 

  5. says

    I can’t believe someone rolled their eyes at you – that is more a reflection of them than it is on you.

    So, good on you to choose to ignore that and focus on the positive! That’s a good lesson we all need to remember.
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    • Shell says

      It’s a hard lesson to learn. But, I don’t like the idea of giving the negative that much power. 

  6. says

    why do we allow ourselves to be so focused on the negative stuff. I will obsess over it. I am going to keep this post in mind next time I start “circling the drain” with my negative thinking. thanks for a great post !
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    • Shell says

      I don’t know- but it’s usually the negative that sticks out. Trying to get over that. And glad I did this weekend!

  7. says

    This is a great post and so so true. It is so easy to focus in on the negative. Why is it so hard for us to accept compliments or to believe the positive stuff? I’m starting to learn and be better about focusing my energy on constructive people and things rather than dwelling on the negative. Hard but a work in progress.
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    • Shell says

      Oh, I know. People compliment and we basically brush it off. But one negative and we never forget it. It’s not right.

    • Shell says

      There are some days that are just hard. 

      But, for the majority of the time, I want to try to keep this attitude. 

  8. says

    I try VERY hard to let go of the negative – but often it is easier said then done. On those times when I am having a harder time with it, I often just surround myself with “known” friends as you did.

    Sounds like you had a wonderful time (minus the one negative nellie) at Blissdom!
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    • Shell says

      I realized that it wouldn’t be fair to make all the positive be less important than a little negative. I had a blast! 

  9. says

    so true in life.  often reminding myself and others…it’s impossible to like everyone and be liked by everyone… but life is so much better when you gravitate towards both the people you like and the ones that like you.
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    • Shell says

      Exactly. There is no way that everyone will like me. I’m okay with that. But, I can’t make a negative reaction be more important than the love I was seeing. 

  10. says

    Good for you for acknowledging it and moving on! Not so much on my blog, but this resonates with me in real life. I hate it when I feel like people don’t like me, even if I don’t particularly care for them! It’s during those times we need to draw our true friend closer and ignore the Negative Nelly (but tell me who she is anyway. I’ll beat her up for you :-))
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    • Shell says

      IRL is harder. I’ve gotten over blogging stuff. That delete button comes in handy. 😉 

      Btw, when the heck are we ever going to meet????

  11. says

    Thanks Shell, I needed this reminder this morning. And it DOES apply as much to ‘real life’ as it does to blogging. Though in some cases, it does overlaps, causing friction within friendships, at least in my world. I fight to remind myself that for every dozen readers who may nod their head in agreement, there will be one who groans in disgust. And that’s okay. We can’t be everything to everyone. We can only be ourselves and hope for the best.

    Cheers to you!
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  12. says

    I am all about the positives, in real life and on my blog. I can’t get caught up in the negatives. If you don’t like me, don’t like me. It’s fine. I probably don’t like you either.
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  13. says

    Oh, yes! I am soooo guilty of focusing on the negative on alot of things. Focusing on the negative seems natural to me. I really have to be intentional to focus on the positive. It is truly amazing how 1 little negative thing can out shadow 100 really positive things! Thanks for the reminder and food for thought!

    • Shell says

      It isn’t fair to those who are being kind to us, if we diminish their words/actions because of one negative. 

  14. says

    Maybe that one will read this and realize who they are, then have guilt for their behavior. Probably not because people like that don’t think that they are doing anything wrong. What is even sadder is they had a friend to play the game with. I am glad you chose to focus on the ones who knew your worth and not the one who was jealous of it.
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    • Shell says

      I sincerely doubt the one will. And that wasn’t my intention- just more an example of the larger principle. I never want to ignore the positive thanks to some small negative part. It’s hard though- that one can stick out and eat away at me… but it’s not fair to let that be more important.

  15. says

    This is so true!! I have a hard time with this one, and negative comments are burned into my brain so much more strongly than positive ones (in life, mostly, I am not a big enough blogger to attract any negative commenters!) Great topic, and a great reminder in life.
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    • Shell says

      So many of us do this. I can tell you negative things from YEARS ago. Ugh. need to let it all go. 

    • Shell says

      Well, had it been when Rascal Flatts was on and I was trying to work my way to the front, I’d deserve some eyerolls.

      For the record, I sat in the back and complained about Joe Jonas being way too loud. LOL

  16. says

    This post hit home for me; not so much for focusing on the negative but because I get caught up in wanting everyone to like me and be my friend. That’s just not going to happen, but it always hurts me. I forget that I have family and friends who love me for who I am, who are proud of me and there for me, and who only roll their eyes out of love (not disdain) for me. I’m glad you were savvy enough to put up a barrier and not let the negative attention in. Interesting post!
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    • Shell says

      We all want to be liked. But, I’m okay with the fact that not everyone will like me… and refusing to let them be important. 

  17. says

    I’m pretty emotional today for some reason (really, it isn’t hormones) and this brought tears to my eyes. I tend to live my life like this. I get so consumed about that one negative person, comment, behavior…that I tend to let the sunshine out of my days. Since Lent began I have been trying to prioritize things in my life and let things go. I realized I am one of those people who can make my whole family miserable if I am miserable. I want them to be happy. I want them to focus on the positive. This post couldn’t come at a better time or as a better reminder. Thank you! xo!
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  18. says

    I can’t believe someone treated you so poorly. Both on your blog and in real life. Just think though, how miserable must that person be to act like that towards another? Maybe she is filled with jealousy that you’re so awesome, sweet and amazing! 😛 (A bit thankful I wasn’t at Blissdom so you know it wasn’t me.) LoL
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  19. says

    Powerful message here! I get caught up in the negative too. This is such a great reminder that doing that is such a waste of time! LOVE this and love you! <3 
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  20. says

    Great post. Thanks for sharing. I don’t know why the negative is always easier to believe, but it is. Negative kept me from blogging for a few months, but then I realized that by censoring myself I was giving the negative so much power, power it didn’t deserve. Still hard to put myself out there though. I am such a people pleaser.
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  21. says

    I try so hard to focus on the positive, at least in the moment. Still, the negative things are often the ones my mind drifts to in the quiet moments, and I’m trying to change that.
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  22. says

    I hate assholes. And somebody who has the nerve to be so rude face to face ? I say to them BLARGH. I’m afraid I’m so used to provoking that angry response face to face that I’m shocked that I haven’t run into it yet with my blog. I’m so bluntly honest, it’s coming sooner or later.
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  23. says

    This piece of advice can be used even in everyday life. After reading your post it make me think about what my sister in law told me. “You can’t let some one elses negativity ruin your day or week. They certainly are not thinking about you, so why give them your time thinking about them. Let it go. :)

    Good advice.
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  24. says

    Oh, sweet Shell.  I had one of those experiences, too.  And it lives in my heart still.  And all through the weekend I kept going back to that moment, even in the middle of much happier moments.  I still felt the sting of that encounter, the bitterness of it.  And you put it so beautifully – there’s still a tiny part of me that wants to prove myself as worthy.
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    • Shell says

      I’m so sorry you had that happen! You are SO sweet. Whoever did that- it was their loss to not get to spend time with you. xo 

  25. says

    I didn’t get to go to Blissdom but what you just described about choosing to ignore that one negative person out of 100 positive people is so true! Some people are just very jealous. Some people want to be in the lime light all the time and can’t handle it when someone else is. I’m so proud of you for not letting that one negative person ruin your blogging weekend! You rock Shell and if anyone treats you badly, you let me know and I’ll send my big, fat Italian family after them 😛
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    • Shell says

      Those amazing people? They are so much more important that the one rude one. I’m sorry you had that experience, though.

    • Shell says

      Oh, you crack me up! One of these days, we need to be at a conference or girls’ weekend together(I’m sort of voting for girls’ weekend!) 

      Love you! xo 

  26. says

    It’s so simple and important a lesson, but yet so hard to follow. We shouldn’t have to prove ourselves to anyone – that we should already be good enough, but alas, there are people in this world who are unhappy and like nothing more than to judge others!

  27. says

    Seriously? Someone took the time to roll their eyes at you? What the hell? You were having a blast the entire conference, from what I saw, so don’t let one jealous hater put a damper on your weekend. We all need to let our hair down and have fun.

    I was too busy napping & eating to notice if anyone rolled their eyes at me.

    It was great to meet you!
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    • Shell says

      I think I needed to find more time to nap. I ended up back in the room by about midnight or so every night instead of being out too late. 

      I had a blast and it was great to meet you! 

  28. says

    I needed this today! Thanks for sharing and always being honest and open.  I have a tendency to let that one negative person/comment/remark effect me way more than it should. It’s so important to focus on the positive and not on the negative, but it is also so hard at times! Thanks for the insight and I am so glad you were able to focus on the positive and had a wonderful time with friends!

    • Shell says

      blogland, we have a delete button. 😉 

      The eyeroll wasn’t even when I was trying to shove my way to the front for Rascal Flatts- I totally would have deserved it then! LOL

    • Shell says

      That was very tempting. But talking about it would have given it much more importance than it actually had. 

  29. says

    Really? I’m really surprised this happened to you. If I was going, which I doubt I ever would, but I would see you as one person people would beg to spend time with. Sorry this happened to you. Sorry this chic hasn’t got a clue and still acts like she is in freakin middle school. It is hard to not get caught up in the negative because the negative is harder to express and you always search for truth in it. Even if there is nothing to be seen but someone’s jealousy. xo
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  30. says

    This is exactly what I needed to read today. I font get caught up in negative comments, but I sometimes have a hard time with the clique thing that happens in the blogosphere. So much so, that I sometimes feel like giving it up.
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    • Shell says

      Don’t ever feel like that. You are amazing. 

      Don’t let the negative have that much power. xo 

  31. says

    Who done it? (I’m kidding, I promise!)

    But seriously, well said. I kind of wrote about something similar, re: getting rid of toxic people in our lives, and this strikes me as along the same lines. When someone is like that it’s ON THEM. They have the issue, not you. And so it goes. I’m glad you had a blast and learned to AXE-EN-CHOO-ATE the positives. xox
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    • Shell says

      LMAO! Who is definitely not the point. 😉 

      It really was a blast! I’ll see you in June, right? 

  32. says

    I was struck with that same message throughout the conference. And while this year I didn’t have a negative experience… I know I did last year when something similar happened to me (the person literally got up and walked away from me after I introduced myself.) 

    We can’t let the negative over-run us… and even in my own self, I’ve been seeing myself turn more negative internally recently. I caught myself a few times at BlissDom saying thing – and then had friends (like you) correct me and tell me how beautiful I really am. That is my next fight… to fight the negative nelly inside of me.

    You are beautiful – and you said this all beautifully. We can’t let the negative ones drag us down.
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    • Shell says

      I didn’t realize some idiot did that to you. They are missing out. Because you are such an amazing person. xo 

    • Shell says

      I don’t get the negative, I really don’t. It wasn’t what we were there for! 

      Glad that you found me when I fb’ed where I was! That was one moment when I couldn’t leave- my awful wet hair. LOL 

  33. says

    This is so very true! Why do we let one negative thing outweigh tons of positive feedback? It’s b/c no one likes hearing negative comments and so it bugs us. But like you said we have the choice to dwell on it or to just move on and just focus on the positive.
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    • Shell says

      I hate hearing the negative. So, I’m trying not to give it power. Will be something I’m reminding myself of over and over again, I’m sure. 

    • Shell says

      And it wasn’t even when I was knocking people over to get to Rascal Flatts. I deserved it then. 

  34. says

    I used to focus on the little negative things that would needle at me, but not any more. I’m learning to let go. Glad you can too. Actually, why on earth would anyone roll their eyes at you??
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  35. says

    Occasionally I will focus on the negative but after living for years in a very negative way I decided to really really try to focus on the positive things in my life and it has really paid off.  I relapse sometimes and it isn’t always easy to ignore that negative but I try.
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  36. says

    That is absolutely brilliant. Really. How much do we let those negative comments sink their teeth right into the pit of our beings…when there have been a gazillion positive ones? Thank you so much for sharing this. Such an important message.
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    • Shell says

      It really is ridiculous to ignore the majority just because of one negative. Not a good way to live.

  37. says

    For me it really depends on what the negative is. Any implication that I’m not a good mom really sticks with me – I think we focus on the things where we feel most vulnerable.

    So glad you had a blast at Blissdom!
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    • Shell says

      That’s very true.

      It’s much easier for me to blow off a negative if I don’t see much behind it.  But see me on a day when one of my boys is having a rough time and judge me for it and I take it really hard. 

  38. says

    YES, girl. So very VERY true this all is. I have a hard time sometimes letting go of the negative. I can’t understand why this one person doesn’t like me but then we can’t be everything to everyone all of the time. I think it’s most important that we are true to ourselves and in doing so, we’ll meet people who love/appreciate us just as we are.

    That one negative nelly won’t make a difference in your life years down the road. But the others? The ones you laughed, danced, enjoyed dinner and cocktails with? They’re the ones you want to hang on to and form lasting friendships with.

    Thanks for this, Shell. Sometimes we all just need a reminder :)
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    • Shell says

      It was so much fun!

      Will you be at Type A again? I hope so- though we need to plan a dinner or something so we get more time to talk! 

  39. says

    Sometimes it’s harder to be positive than negative and it takes a great effort, and a concentrated effort to do that. It’s so worth it though, that positivity tends to take over and make everything better!!! :)
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    • Shell says

      So much effort to be positive. At least, at this point. I want it to become natural. 

    • Shell says


      I actually refrained while I was there b/c I didn’t want to be just as bad. 😉

  40. says

    So sorry that happened. It is so easy to get caught up and remember that one negative. To try and stop myself from doing that– I remind myself if I let it bother me then they are winning and they are getting what they want. I want to win! So I will not allow them to beat me- I realize who I am and move on… or at least try really hard to
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    • Shell says

      That’s it exactly- I didn’t want her to win. I didn’t want to give her so much power that she could ruin my fun. 

  41. says

    I read this earlier this am & thought I left a comment… Lol. I checked back to read some of the others & I can’t find what I wrote. I guess I hit a wrong button. In any case, I applaud you for making a conscious choice to remain positive & be true to yourself. Sadly there is always one who would like to try to spoil it for the rest of us!!! Only they wind up looking like an idiot & you… Wind up shinning like a rock star!! 
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    • Shell says

      Wasn’t the keynote awesome? I think I could write a month of PYHOs just from takeaways from it.

  42. says

    It’s often really hard to not let the negative get to me but really, the one negative person shouldn’t be allowed to trump the 100 positive people. 

    And I missed the opening keynote because um, it was early for me so I’m glad that you posted some of what he talked about. 😉 
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  43. says

    Great post.  And ouch on the cattiness you may have felt at #blissdom.

    Besides the fact, by the sounds of it you have an amazing support system of ladies who support, love, and adore you.  And like the speaker said, much better to think of the positive over the negative.  I’d rather be lifted up than brought down any day. 
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  44. says

    I’m glad you chose to move right along and not let this twit impact what a great time you were having. I’ve been living life for a while with the Carpe Diem motto. Seize the day {moment, minute, etc.} I recently dumped a friend because she was just a pile of negative. Just being around her was exhausting. So – gone! Life’s too short, ya know.

    p.s. if I ever saw someone whisper about me? Or roll their eyes? I’d probably call them out. Right there. And loudly. Cuz I’m vocal like that.
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    • Shell says

      It just doesn’t seem worth it to fight to keep such a negative person in our lives.

      I went to bed on Saturday b/c I was DONE with it all. One more drink I’d have been confronting. 

  45. says

    I hate that you had that moment, my friend.
    If I had been there, I would have been glued to your side and you might have needed to call security to peel me off you. Just sayin.

    Great message here…one that we all need to remember. 
    Much love, Shell. xo
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    • Shell says

      I wish you had been there! I’d love to meet you. Dang being on opposite coasts! 

    • Shell says

      Ha! thank you, but I think it was second grade when I made peace with the fact that it’s impossible to have everyone like me. 😉 

    • Shell says

      You should really go to one of these! The positives really do outweigh the negatives.

  46. says

    Wow. I need constant reminders to look for the positives.
    I focus, way to easily, on the negative and sometimes it takes a while to get out of that negative mind frame. Thanks for reminding me.

    • Shell says

      I can think of negative things said to me from years ago. But I realized I don’t hang on to the positive like that and perhaps I need to adjust my way of thinking.

  47. says

    It is SO hard to do but to ensure our happiness I guess we must learn to focus on the positive over the negative. I always try to think that everyone has their own unique past that shapes the way they think and act today and I have no way of knowing their story–nor do they know mine. It does allow me to be a little more sympathetic to people who are grouchy, angry, b*tchy…but it isn’t any easier!
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    • Shell says

      So true. We don’t know- but when it’s obviously directed at one person and one only, that changes it a bit. But, since I couldn’t change it, I chose not to focus on it.

  48. says

    I’m new here, so I haven’t poured my heart out about anything yet, but I want to say that I love this idea. We should definitely focus on the positive! This is a great idea! Hopefully I will be able to participate in the future!
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  49. says

    Very wise words, Shell.  I understand the feeling of wanting to try to get someone to like you.  I’m trying to learn for myself to be okay when someone doesn’t like me.  But rolling eyes and whispering?  I’d like to kick that person in the shins who was rude to you!  Oh, wait, I’m going to try to go back to being positive…..I think you’re awesome, Shell.  Thanks for being you!
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  50. says

    such a great outlook to always remember! i used to do a lot of mass marketing for a big company and my boss would always be upset if we got one or two negative reactions on something we did – but i was always like, that’s out of a million people! i can’t believe only 8 people didn’t like it.

    clearly, i may be too glass full for my own good!
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  51. says

    I can’t believe that anyone could have a bad thing to say about you but I’m so glad you were able to not let it get to you. I have a terrible time with that. I always get stuck on the one person who doesn’t seem to like me rather than the others that do.
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  52. says

    How did I not already comment on this?

    I try so hard to not get caught up in the negative, but at times I do. I can’t help but want to explain myself to the haters or try to turn around the opinion off someone that is being awful to someone else. BUT, as I get older I try to remember exactly what you just said. Life is too short to give too much time and energy to the negative. I can’t imagine someone not liking you, not that I have met you in person. I’m glad it didn’t dampen your fun there!
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    • Shell says

      Oh, I know. I think if only I could talk  to them and figure out why… but I realized I can’t spend all my time doing that. That makes one person more important than the others.

  53. says

    So true!  Why is it that the negative seems to be amplified?  And sometimes even the lack of a positive feedback can come across as negative?  Good for you on making the intentional choice to focus on the positive.


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